Those of us who have suffered the death of a beloved family member, friend, or pet know how comforting it is when others remember our loss and grief.

We also know that the holidays can be a very difficult time, regardless how long it’s been since a death occurred. As we struggle to find ways to cope with our sadness, we often feel alone in our sorrow.

Over the years, one thing that helped me in my own grief was to donate to causes which were important to my loved ones: for example, in memory of my father, I made donations  to the Calgary Humane Society.

But last year, I honoured all my loved ones through the  “Memory Snowflakes” at Alberta Hospice Palliative Care Association (AHPCA.)  Seeing my family member’s, friend’s, and pet’ names on the gentle night sky brought me unexpected comfort and peace.

This week, I created a “Memory Snowflake” to support a precious family friend whose mother recently died unexpectedly. It was my way to say, “I don’t know what else to do to help ease your grief, but I want you to know that I’m thinking of you, and remembering your Mom during the holidays.”

This season, as you honour your own loved ones, I encourage you to remember your friend’s and neighbour’s losses as well through a “Memory Snowflake “; when you do, we’ll send a message to let them know.

It’s easy to make your “Memory Snowflake” donation online at AHPCA. It can be any amount you like; tax receipts will be sent for all donations over $20.00.  Your donation will also help fund  education programs for hospice palliative care volunteers, professionals, and families across rural Alberta.

But most importantly, when you create a “Memory Snowflake”, you’ll bring comfort  to those who are grieving this holiday season by letting them know they are not alone.

Gentle holidays.

By: Wendy Kurchak